Let’s understand the psychology of Men. Have you ever heard about Men’s cave? It is an methaphor used to indicate men’s isolation from all others in their life. Cave is a mental space where he hides himself
You cannot call it as depression because depression is common for both the gender. So this cave concept can only be applicable to Men.
Let’s first understand what is a cave
Cave is a mental block that a man creates for himself which won’t let others to get into his circle. Usually in this period they avoid others, won’t talk or participate in anything that much. Friends or spouse may find it difficult to get along with them in this situation. By the way the female partner keep on questioning themselves whether they did something bad or something that make him angry
The cave is something which he can only live in it, where the trespassers are not allowed. In other terms it a lion’s den. He may be furious or depressed inside his cave according to the situation. It is a place where he spends time with himself. A period for personal reflection, in words the ME TIME
The man spending time with himself is not a problem at all, but the period of isolation hurt the closed ones. Eg: Consider a man having wife and a new born baby, when he goes into cave in this period and if he took 3 months to get back to normal, think about the mental health of hiswife, for that long period period she will be desparate for care and love.
Many of the women cannot with stand the silence of men during this period and keep on wondering about the reasons. There are many reasons for which a man can go into his cave.
- Unavle to meet his expectations
- Unable to achieve his dreams
- Betrayed in a relationship
- Feeling of loser
- Low self esteem
- Chronic relationship problems
In here, the cave acts as an resting place. He waits for the healing to take place slowly without anyone’s interference
The solution to get your man out from his cave is very simple.
- Provide him with comfort zone, which ever you may aware of
- Make him involve in group or couple activity, which is most likely of adventerous, thrilling, lively, exciting- a man always find excitement in these things
- Slowly get to know the reason behing his silence, for which you need to really have patience, he will not reveal the matter that easily
- After knowing the reason, don’t try to cheer him up or give your advice. The best thing you can do is to support him by involving yourself in it, help him to complete the problem that he is facing on the moment